If someone gets offended and calls you out for being [racist/sexist/transphobic/heteronormative/antisemetic/etc] and instead of apologizing you get defensive and you instead explain all the reasons why they’re wrong and you’re right, rather than asking them why they think you’re whatever it is they called you, I probably have no respect for you.

if it happens more than once, you probably are wrong considering MORE THAN ONE PERSON FOUND A THING THAT YOU DID OFFENSIVE. do not sit and whine and tell them “its my blog/life/page, and i can do whatever I want” because that’s being childish.

Like, it doesnt matter if you didn’t mean for it to be, or you didn’t realize it, or even that they’re wrong, getting defensive and being rude is completely unnecessary and makes you look like an ass, even if you weren’t at fault to begin with, imho